Dr. Ellyn Bader
The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy:
You know the feeling of apprehension, helplessness, inadequacy when you sit in front of a couple that’s replaying the War of the Roses. Actually, it would be OK with you if they never came back.
We’ve all been there.
Now imagine this new clinical picture of yourself.
You have learned how to take highly distressed couples and help them become curious and not furious. You know why most of their complaints are really not personal and help them acquire the same perspective.
You help them see the pain underlying their self-protective attacks and withdrawals. They listen because you know what you are talking about.
Instead of feeling inadequate, you like earning your pay. You feel confident, self-assured, eager for more opportunities to help them.
All This and More is Possible